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The
Feature Articles
New Article
"The
Best Ways to Develop a Lasting Relationship"
Conscious
Communication Series
Part 02
"Express
Yourself
with Purpose"
February
2007 Part 01
"Dress
to Express"
January 2007
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June 2006
The road is bare… It’s dark outside, the clouds loom above, disheartening
the moon beams that shine in your pathway.
Where are we going? You ask yourself as your thoughts
dwell on the plentiful actions that you have given and devoted to your loved
one, hoping to water the seemingly destitute relationship you are currently
in.
You’ve given of yourself and received nothing in return.
Even though you are self-less, you feel a void, as your expressions of love
appear to fall on deaf ears.
Why does this happen? Why do so many people find
themselves in relationships that are in actuality only one way streets?
Two main reasons really stand out as being affecters of
the outcome of your relationship:
1. The way you view the person you’re with.
2. The type of person they are.
1. Quite often, many people rush into relationships based
on the driving factor of their quickly developed emotional attachment to
someone. They have the tendency to appear needy, making it obvious
that they are more into their partner than they are into them.
Doing nice things for your partner is good. You
have to give to your relationship, but sometimes people tend to give too
much and smother the other person, quenching the burning fire of their love
for you in the process.
The more you psychologically lean towards that person,
they lean even farther back, and it becomes a perpetual cycle. If you
find that your partner is pushing back, then it is time for you to lean
back, and allow the pendulum swing to draw your partner back into an
amicable balance.
Working with a relationship is like watering a plant.
If you over-watered your plant your plant would die, but just the right
amount of water and sunshine, and your plant will grow vibrant!
2. Quite often, certain personality traits go unnoticed
or overlooked at the dawn of many relationships. Some people have the
tendency to take advantage of situations that are in their favour. If
someone is always giving to you, it is very easy to get caught up in it.
When this happens, respect is diminishing and the
relationship starts to crumble. You must expect and demand that your
relationship be a two way street. Both of you have to water your
relationship if it is to grow. After all, you are both together in
your relationship; each one has to do their part.
If you’re dating someone and you find yourself in a one
way street relationship; the person you’re with being unwilling to change,
then it is definitely time to move on. You’re worth it and you owe it
to yourself to be in a relationship with someone who not only wants, but who
is also willing to contribute to your relationship as much as you do!
David Vassell
Looking into each others eyes, you can see the shimmer of each others smiles
twinkle in your eye, a slight wink, a sweet smile, a soft embrace, a smooth
touch, a brief kiss, a letter of love.
Many are the moments of love. Do you remember how you felt when you first
realized your love for someone? How did it feel? Wasn’t it wonderful? You
felt like you were floating on a cloud, and everything around you seemed so
much more beautiful!
Some people ask, what is the power of love? Well for one thing, it helps you
to see the world in different light. The glow of life feels evermore
present, and irradiating. You find a new appreciation of the world, the
world that holds within it, those you love.
You can now see why the topic of love permeates almost every aspect of our
society. The desire for love and to be loved can make people do the wildest
things. The card, flower, and chocolate industries derive much of their
revenue from the marketing of love.
Without love, our world would truly become unbearable, a world lacking the
ecstasy of joy, witnessing the marching of lifeless drones, filling the
brightened horizons of office buildings.
For those of you that have had the pleasure of experiencing love, remember
those times of love. There are many and few moments of love, and they can be
used to enrich the love you have within you, for you will become a more
loving person, and someone to love.
Remember it, the feeling in your chest, the heat swelling inside, the
euphoric feeling you felt when looking into that persons eyes, the way your
heart skipped a beat when they smiled, and the times when you would do the
same to them, and see their love for you within.
Those are the moments to cherish, the memories that will get us through the
day, through the hardest and happiest moments. Those are the ones that we
hold dearest to our hearts and have allowed to and will continue to define
us as a person, and as a human being.
For those of you that haven’t found love yet, your time will come, for there
truly is someone out there for each of us. If we are willing to share love
with others, we can be sure that we will receive love in return. Even though
some in this world have forgotten, it is in our innate nature to love, it is
part of what defines us as human!
Continue to grow as a person, weeding out our negatives, building up our
positives, and practicing to show love throughout every day of our lives, to
have a truly successful relationship, depends upon our desire to become a
better person.
David Vassell
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